The word profile of dating profile that is losing in the instant deal

I was sitting on the sofa, a spiral ball in the wool blanket with my knees tucked under my chin. This was the beautiful place in my day: the time I want to lose a little sleep to enjoy it. Thirty minutes before waking up. This is quiet, wonderfully lost half of my morning for me.

Instagram? Facebook? Check. Trump still breaks democracy? Unfortunately. Tirmid? With my phone in the hand, coffee in the other, systematically wander through the information world. Most of the morning, these rituals are not calm. But on that day, a full category of men rejected before the completion of my first bribe.

“Why should all of that hot are in the open air?” I thought.

I was wandering for four years, and I noticed some directions. In fact, trends may be a symbol of “Peves”. And the files are personal. Some people do not notice a shirt mark. Others cut it immediately. Things that bother us loudly. For me, Tinder rises loudly with the following: fish, cars, personal photos without a shirt, and “no drama” and taco sandwiches. “Outdoursy” was the last to join the list.

I have the reasons for writing all these men. “I could have presented you at the hunter times,” said fish pictures. “I am extra.” If it is without a shirt, you can bet that he will tell you that he is in natural beauty while pretending like a fitness effect. “I am driving women crazy and I am not an emotional supporter,” she says. Taco sandwiches? Wonderful, but their love is not character. Give me the ants on the record, lentils, or anything else literally.

But “Outdoursy”. I didn’t want to make their appointment, but I couldn’t explain the reason.

There is a full type of men who proudly describe themselves “outdoors.” These personal files are a predictable cocktail from long -distance walking clips, pictures of the summit and sometimes kayak boats. They mention cycling and climbing and using phrases such as “searching for a crime partner” for weekend adventures, which usually translate into an equal and active person for anything. You feel that they are not looking for a connection as much as it will match its pace with the hill and does not seek emotional terrain maps.

When a man says he is in the open air, I hear: the highest levels of adrenaline, expensive hardware, ongoing movement, and a lifestyle built around the boundaries of payment. I also hear something quieter. We are talking about outdoor people as if they were ambitious: appropriate, adventurous, all. There is a pride in being in the open air, which is a type of lawsuit.

We have created a full dating culture about lifestyle width, and what is happening is rarely comfortable. Or joy. Or creativity. It is the movement, energy, and the visible guide to success. This means often means: money, health and movement. Let’s be honest, thin. This is somehow logical; Dating applications reflect the same hierarchy that we see everywhere. In this context, the desire is not just a personal taste; It is a reflection of those who get priority in the wider culture.

There is nothing wrong with its nature to be in the open air. But when that is the perfect virtual, it sends a quiet message about who belongs and and not. People who do not have a budget for gear or flights on the weekend. People with chronic pain or the limits of navigation. People who love to be at home. There is no equivalent wave of “interior” profiles that are looking for someone to hang out and divide snacks with the sofa.

In Christmas, I bought a heavy shirt. I read: “inside.” On the first night I wore, I went out to a bar and installed my friend Jeff. Jeff outdoor. Certainly outdoors.

We sat. I took off my jacket. He saw the heavy type shirt.

“Inside?! What is supposed to mean that?”

I said: “This means that I am pleased to be inside.” “On the inside, he has a lot to advance.”

Jeff stares. i paid. “Creators are often preferred inside.”

I was waiting for a gesture, simple, “good, fair”. Instead, Jeff called his friend to support him. He referred to a heavy shirt as it was a threat.

“When you see this, what do you think?” Jeff asked. Then I feed his friend’s ideas such as: lazy, Netflix, watch Shara, delivery applications. That moment told me everything. Outdoursy was not just a lifestyle. It was valuable, virtue. And inside it? That was a haven.

But there is no ethical value inherent if you enjoy rock climbing or not. For all coordinated taste, a picture of a tent in your profile does not mean that you are based. Sealing the passport does not mean that you know where you are going.