Physical Address
304 North Cardinal St.
Dorchester Center, MA 02124
I will never forget the first months of being a new mother. These days were filled with more chaos, questions, fears, and… Emotions Than I thought was possible. There are definitely some things I wish I could go back in time and tell myself.
1.
“You don’t have to make a happy child happier. If your child is happy playing with a wooden spoon for ten minutes, leave him alone!”
2.
“Give your child as much closeness and love as possible. Enjoy every second you can cuddle with him. Never express your feelings for your child; sincerely apologize if you make mistakes. Your child did not make a decision to come into this world. You did. You are responsible for making sure that he He becomes a happy and good person.
3.
“The first days suck and no one tells you how hard it is. The world just expects you to deal with it. It’s understandable if you hate it. It doesn’t make you a bad mother.”
4.
“Read to your children. I remember my father reading to me before bed, and that is one of the best memories I have.”
5.
“You know your child better than anyone. Everyone will tell you what you should do and what you shouldn’t do, but in the end, you have to do what you think is right for your family. Not only that, every child is different; the things that work for One child will not necessarily always be a good fit for your other children, one of my children needs a long bedtime routine to settle down and sleep he needs to be held and cuddled for a few minutes before he can calm down Most parenting is trial and error, you learn as you go, give; yourself Time, and be kind to yourself.
6.
“Wanting to do things without a child or needing a break here and there is not selfish. Everyone needs a break. It’s okay to enjoy your time away. Don’t let anyone shame you and make you feel like you have to be with your child 100% an entire day.” “Every day for the rest of your life.”
7.
“If your child falls or gets hurt, stay calm. Children watch our reactions to everything, and if you stay calm, they will too. When my daughter falls while learning how to walk but seems fine, I’d say, ‘Oh no, let’s get back up,'” she said. Then praise her when she gets back on her feet. If she cries, I will soothe her while I examine her. “If there aren’t any obvious injuries, I’ll encourage her to get back up and keep going.”
8.
“Don’t let the screen be your babysitter. There are long-term consequences to everything you do when you’re raising a child.”
9.
“My mom always told me that going to bed feeling like you failed at being a good parent in some way every day is a good sign that you’re doing it right. You’re always going to worry about countless things. But caring enough to do that means that’s 100% true.” “And the fact that you’re worried about whether or not you’re a good parent means you probably are.”
10.
“My lactation consultant told me that if I could do it over again, I wouldn’t worry so much about how to feed my baby, and instead I would enjoy my baby.”
11.
“You are the best mother to your child. This helped me when I was in the throes of baby blues. I repeated this to myself over and over again when I felt inadequate.”
12.
“Know when you need a short break. Crying doesn’t kill the baby. Listen to them when they tell you something is wrong, but also understand that a ten-minute break to calm them down isn’t cruel. They need your best from you, and you can’t do that without occasionally coming into the room.” And breathe for a minute.”
13.
“Respect your children. Don’t hold them to standards that you wouldn’t hold yourself or others to. We’re often upset with children for being human. No one yells at me to stop crying when something upsets me; why would I do that? When my friend comes to me upset about something I might think it’s silly I will not reject him, I will listen to him and support him.
14.
“Patience is key! Accept that when your baby is crying and nothing seems to help him (feeding, changing diapers, etc.), you may only need to hold him for so long before he calms down. This is where patience has to start.”
15.
“Take lots of photos, even on messy days. You’ll want those memories later.”
16.
“You will make mistakes. That’s okay. You might have moments of regret. That’s okay. People will give you advice on how to care for your baby. Don’t listen to everything. You’ll do a great job. Don’t do that.” Compare yourself to other parents, even if they start telling you what their child can do. Parenting is not a competition.”
17.
“There’s a whole industry out there exploiting your fears to get your money. They’ll tell you that you have to buy the best everything for your child or you’re not a good parent. That’s a lie…”
18.
“Don’t get too focused on milestones. I made this mistake when I was so worried about my baby not being able to walk, talk, or crawl on time, and it took a lot of joy. Unless there is a medical need, babies will be able to walk when they are Ready, it’s not a measure of your ability as a parent, it’s fun to track monthly milestones, but if it’s going to cause you more stress setting up a monthly photo shoot, skip it. The photos I look back on the most are their daily memories, not the ones I show each A month with a nice sign.”
19.
“The best advice I’ve ever gotten is: For better or worse, everything is a phase. No matter how hard it is, try to enjoy the present. Don’t look forward to the time when they can walk or talk or do this or that…or spend your days nostalgic about the past, And try to enjoy the present because it will disappear in six months.
What is your best advice for someone about to become a parent? Tell us in the comments or here Anonymous model.
